Do you have a vision in your head of how you thought 2021 was going to be like? How has it been so far for you? With only 4 months left until 2022, if there’s one thing we’ve all learned from the past year and a half, it is that expectations and reality don’t always match! In this preview of our 5-week Foundational Resilience Program, Robin Connelley explains how approaching everything with a beginner’s mindset will help you move through unexpected situations, digest it, respond properly and even learn new skills along the way.
As adults, we always put pressure on ourselves with goals and expectations. It is deeply rooted in a desire to control - the opposite of acceptance and curiosity, which are both aspects of resilience. The Zen Buddhist concept of “beginner’s mind” emphasizes the importance of approaching problems as a beginner would. A beginner sees many potential possibilities, whereas someone who has a strong desire to control sees the few possibilities left after accounting for all the limitations of which they’re aware.
When the pandemic first started, Robin experienced firsthand the limitations of her expectations. Having been challenged by her nutritionist to grow three vegetables that she disliked, Robin envisioned one potter - with one carrot, one eggplant and one mushroom. When the Chōsen partner farm sent over a few seeds to germinate, she ended up with over 100 sprouted plants! A few months later, her sprouts grew into a big community garden in her villa compound in Bali. She ended up with a variety of vegetables as well as new friends from the community. “If the experience would have matched my original expectation, there would have been a whole set of life-changing benefits and experiences I would have missed out on!” says Robin.
Today’s reality brings near-constant change, and the pandemic makes this very apparent. In the business world, what is standard practice today may be outdated in the course of a week. What was impossible a week ago may be feasible tomorrow. We believe that having a beginner’s mindset, or that of curiosity, non-judgment, and without expectations is an incredible asset in a world that is ever-changing. It relies not on our expectations or wisdom that experts have passed down for years, but rather on curiosity about what’s happening and a desire to understand and adjust for what is possible now.
Our expectations can get the better of us, but we can choose for it not to. “It can either create significant stress when they don't match up to reality or perhaps we can learn a thing or two when we reconsider our preconceptions and open our minds to new ways of thinking,” says Robin.
In our 5-week online Foundational Resilience Program, we have structured the learning experience by approaching uncertainty with open curiosity and a beginner's mindset, so that you can become something bigger and better than you can even imagine.
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